flawed?

This is a post I wrote for my personal blog a couple years ago when I was 38 weeks pregnant with my second baby girl. It is coming from the mind of a normal pregnant mama who was thinking through what was to come.

Thursday, September 29, 2011

last night I was sitting and praying... I eventually got to the point where I was asking for covering over the birth coming up and thanking God for creating my body capable of growing a child and bringing it into the world. I was saying "thank you for creating my body to do this and allowing it the ability to know on it's own exactly what to do. That I do not have to fear but that I can trust in the process you have made because I know it is not flawed."

Then it hit me! So many people DO believe this process is flawed... That without intervention our bodies would not be able to birth our babies. It simply is not true! He has created us to be knit together and grow and develop in our mothers womb. He also has created our bodies to open and for that baby to descend and be born in just as simple and natural of a way. 

it's all so purposeful and so not flawed!

don't get me wrong, I do understand that ever so often a complication arrises that does require major medical attention! And I am so very thankful God had created intelligent Dr's and Midwives to facilitate when an issue does arise.

That all said, I pray all my lady friends (especially you who are pregnant and growing a baby right now and will soon face the amazing moment of birthing your child) that you will trust and believe that your body too is far from being flawed! When God created YOU in YOUR mothers womb He designed your reproductive organs and hormones and everything else to endure and even flourish during the pregnancy and birthing process.

fearfully (beautifully) & wonderfully made...

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Medicated or un-medicated. What's a doula to do?

I heard someone say the other day "doulas are only for women who want un medicated births" and then just read a forum where a woman said her doula "pushed her own agenda and was mean and acted disappointed in her when she chose to intervene." This  got me thinking about many of my past clients births, why they chose a doula in the first place, and the role that I played. 

How I chose to birth my own babies in no way crosses over to an expectation of what my clients or any other woman should choose. It was a personal decision. I am glad I had them at home, but I 110% believe in informed choice (meaning educating yourself as much as possible and then making the best decision for you off of the information you found) and the freedom to birth in whatever way you choose.

If you are considering a doula it is so very important that you talk through personal beliefs, expectations, as well as dreams and desires. It is imperative that she listens and really gets a feel for what you want and is able to adapt herself to YOU.

I have had mamas who hire me because they are dead set on wanting an all natural birth, some who want "see how it goes", and some who don't care  about going natural at all.

my role as a doula is to try and make your birth experience positive, well informed, and hopefully super sweet! I want to remove the stress of not understanding the "birth" or hospital lingo, advocate for the things that are important to you, and be a constant in what can sometimes me a inconsistent time. 

Don't be afraid to shop around and wait to find a doula who you feel respects your heart on the matter and who isn't there for herself but does her job in service to YOU!